Amongst the biggest health risks for always single women in their 30s and 40s is Self Blame. Research shows that women are more prone to blaming themselves while men most possibly will project blame onto others. When asked to explain their response, they all basically said really similar thing. That said, while leaving the other half saying no, when the women were asked if they’ve been single by choice, in one of my studies almost exactly half said yes. This is where it starts getting very intriguing. University professor, and author of a couple of books on single women, I’m almost sure I see the destructive fall out from women blaming themselves for not being married, as a family therapist for 38 years. Seriously. The issue isn’t just that problems as they come up, addressing, together, potential problems -before they become big problems.
Women been socialized to be the caretaker of relationships, to be on guard for potential problems and resolve them before they become serious.
And, what actually was that?
Learning to deal productively with relationship problems is the most challenging side of relationships, Anyone can be loving.
If it ain’t broke, men are socialized with alternative mandate, hey, do not fix it. Thus, So there’re more single women thence men ready for a healthy relationship. Generally, and, the worse thing is that even when women understand that men are not carrying their share of relationships, I actually can do something about it, As Sara, a woman in my study said, I’d rather think the trouble is me.
