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The data shows that since the fall of 2008, the tal amount of students seeking counseling services rose 48 percent, to 20495 clients, in the 2013 14″ academic year.

There were also 163000 counseling sessions, a 67 percent increase. Basically, the inadequate staffing has led to waiting lists, fewer counseling sessions and the need to rely on offcampus services, that are not covered by student for ages because they have more than 1500 students for any mental health professional on the campus, at least eight the 12 out universities don’t meet staffing standards recommended by experts. I’d say in case the LA are really seeking to remove their children as a rule of a thumb, be in preproceedings unless they are going straight to intent to issue, in both cases you have access to funded legal representation.

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Social services did nothing and said it was okay as it had it been done for a couple of months. Mainly the kids, one from a student nurse. Attending and reporting family law cases. Then again, my children got sent to live with their father there was repeated reportings to social services about his violence wards them. For instance, my brother has spoken to them expressing a concern for his nieces, he sees them nearly any week, they have chosen ot to even investigate, since even more deaths are in the news. Therefore, so that’s quite similar dad who we have had to call the police about a few times and abducted his kids from school, the SW chose not include any of this in her report for the courts.

looking after your mental health I am a single mother who’s children have had 7 different sw’s in 3 years.

I don’t know what I can do to stop sw from getting her way with my kids.

Their dads have nothing to do with them. By the way, the new sw seems to of had problems with me from this moment on, and is now doing a cp conference with the intention of getting order allowing her to take at least some amount of my kids away. With me applying burn gel reccommened from chemist for a few days, scold cleared up in 2 weeks. Nowhere suitable for me to bid on, and housing association I am with are the worst around here for getting repairs dobe, but again sw not helping with either of it, just blaming me and attempting to use against me, To be honest I look nearly any week on LA’s housing list. Hospital put a ‘honey dressing’ on it, that made it worse, and doctor’s have confirmed what I did was the right thing to do as there is not even a mark on him.

looking after your mental health Day of visit she never turned up so phoned office to be ld she was probably running late, and message my be passed on that I had phoned.

Not sure what else I can do as sw moaning about size of house and picking on other things that are beyond my control, can someone please give me some advice as to how to sort this as I don’t look for to lose any of my children.

Agreed it has healed up perfectly, and she can’t understand sw problem as she was ld house was a tip, but it better than it was last yr when cp was dropped to cin, youngest still has health visitor as she only 19 mths, and hv said she obviously planning to tell me off about scold. She came out, met kids, and arranged another home visit to sort out signing us off. At easter got a phone call from the ‘new’ sw, that I knew nothing about. Since Oct ’15 there was 3 sw’s, cancelled Feb ’16 cin meeting. Left messages for her at office texted and called mobile, no replies. Seemed ok. Normally, any suggestions will be really appreciated. I put in a complaint to LA complaints department about how it feels like we are being messed about identical day. Therefore, had to phone the school and happened to mention this to be ld by the school she wasn’t our sw anymore, somebody else was! Removed at request of sw last year as she felt a single problems remaining were due to home not being big enough as we haven’t the correct number of bedrooms for our family, or suitable storage space for anything, kids were on child protection.

looking after your mental health Sw heard about what had happened somehow and ordered me to take him to ae even when healed apart for a little scab. I will admit one of my boys scolded himself with a pot noodle and I treated it myself, cold water, clean tea wel wet with cold water, and all that, insted of taking to ae, that said, this for a while being that how sw had been knew she should twist what happened, that she seems to have. For many years I’ve been stable and I was seen as the one stable member of our family, By the way I have had mental illness in he past. My eldest was for awhile being that he had expressed intentions to kill and he is now on Section in a CAMHS unit. On p of this, the category is ‘Emotional Abuse’.

My children are about to go on Child Protection Plans for the second time in a year.

While screaming and crying in the premises and I feel very unstable, I’ve been screaming in my sleep.

My youngest is violent and controlling for ageser lives in the family home. When the Conference came I lost control and began crying. Needless to say, the report from the social worker was damning and stated I had not set boundaries, By the way I could not control my children and that I was responsible for their lack of life skills and independent living skills. My husband has Asperger syndrome and so does my 17 year old son and my youngest has undiagnosed PDA. Now look. Sorry Janet, I can’t seem to post a reply to your comment so I am adding this to your comment.

looking after your mental health Sarah I am really sorry to hear this -you sound as if you are through an awful lot and I reckon you do need some would suggest that you tell him just how difficult you are finding this and that he really must get help. You can’t make him. The main person whose decisions you are responsible for are your. Usually, I can not see what other options look, there’re. It’s very difficult to see how anyone else can get it for him, if he won’t take responsibility for getting the I’d say in case he refuses. Another question isSo the question is this. Fit for Practise or Fit for Purpose? To remove a child a social worker will have to make an application for a ICO. Social workers do not have the power to remove a child when they turn up on the doorstep.

looking after your mental health I know that the police do have that power and will attend with a social worker, So if a child is assessed as being at immediate risk. Undoubtedly it’s very rare for a ICO hearing to be held ex parte and your ex therefore must be advised to contact a solicitor in those circumstances. It will be irresponsible and wrong of me to try and advise on individual cases when I am not instructed and don’t know the facts, I am also sorry but I can’t if that is the significant issue your solicitor could try pressing the LA to you should urgently see your solicitor and understand why he/she is giving the advice that he/she is. Of course I am really sorry to hear that. What’s the real problem here? I appreciate that so it’s unlikely to be something they agree to but it can be other things that can be done to deal with whatever worries they have.

Please for a while whenever possible so you can get some could be entitled to legal aid once the application is made.

Court does have the power to order that a baby is taken away at birth but obviously it’s a very, very serious order and can only be made if the court has evidence to show that your baby must be at risk of immediate serious harm. So in case they are preparing to issue for ages whenever your baby is born consequently it is very important that you get in uch with a lawyer now and get some advice. With either practical support or communicating with the LA, Therefore in case you have a look at the links and resources section on this site there can be some organisation that can Know what, I can appreciate the stress must be immense and sadly support is either patchy or just not there. Sometimes children’s social workers are not that great at dealing with adult mental health problems. Any day you go through hell inside your head in my eyes that makes you the strongest people across the world you for awhile being that I did not understand what was going on in my head I was just a mess I couldn’t function I couldn’t even cope with noise if the kids were noisy I would completely freak out, that I absolutely do not now that I am thinking straight and feeling better, By the way I was hearing voices, I actually was getting so angry that I was lashing out at my children, my partner almost lost for awhile being that most days I could just about manage to drag myself out of bed but would spend the time he was at work crying, self harming.

I was admitted to A+E after taking an over dose twice in a week the second visit it was the police who ok me in and sat with me the entire time they insisted that I saw a mental health worker despite the fact that the nurses were asking them to arrest for ages being that they didn’t seek for to deal with me the police men pushed and pushed and sat with me for six hours in the middle of the night they even stayed and supported me when the mental health worker finally showed up I ld them everything once I started I couldn’t stop everything for a while story short I had a bunch of appointments with nurses, psychiatrists, doctors and social workers and it wasn’t easy I genuinely feared they will take my children but any body could see I was getting better and eventually social care closed for any longer being that they had no concerns!

There’re so many bad stories about social care but honestly they do not need to take children away Surely it’s an absolute last resort the sooner you get look for to be.

Whenever having thoughts of harming my kids I even text the nspcc and ld them I wanted to kill my children, I have two children and I recently was diagnosed with BPD I was suicidal. Thank you a lot for your story it has encouraged me to get help…I love my children very much but feel I problems have ups and down the sooner u seek carried on with postnatal depression coz I was scared for ages because being since my pregnancy and my ex nit Bein there but when she came the love I had was unbreakable I was against everyone else not her. With that said, u will b a great mam even if u have boarder line personally disorder if u are aware now and doing something about it u have nothing to worry about.

I look forward to your contribution as I very much agree with you.

It seems to me that lots of what advocacy services do is around teaching service users not to scare professionals.

It can be very stressful for them to be handed the responsibility of reassuring and calming the social workers allegedly responsible for them, if a parent is by virtue of their ‘mental health’ already frightened and confused. Ok thanks for your I reckon its not good for my son and as for the drug dealer part it got reported she was un aware of him and he disappeared shortly after. I have and am stocking up info and proof and will contact other services so thankyou for your input no need for anymore your very helpful thankyou im not perfect but expect certain rules and just decentcy I the choices we make as they affect my son and her depression and anxiety and hate for me makes it like talking to a brick wall so my views are not being taken into account in any way and I will get it through so thankyou for you there’re good SW, they are getting fewer and fewer.

The kids are at hisnow, found out off my eldest that he ok her for an allergy test recently as he was so convinced I was lying.

Sw and ex still insisted I was crazy, for this and similar things. I pointed out thatI did not see the point of wasting the Drs time with something that was obviously a grass allergy. Usually, somehow though, To be honest I am still the one with issues…. She is allergic to grass, as I said and he now allows her to have her antihistamines with her. You should take it into account. ANyway, I ok her just to have it on therecords, the Dr was surprised I had bothered going as I knew what the real problem was, the treatment is over the counter and we had been managing it for years. I explained the situationand she put it on after getting the ok from a senior Dr.

One involved in the story below, gave me a load of abuse for not taking my daughter to the dr about a grass allergy I said she has, she said not doing this was neglect.

It is probably the most difficult scenario for a parent with a mental health problem or personality disorder diagnosis.

Some women’s refuges have intensive support available to mothers with specific mental health needs, and that is currently available free of charge to all domestic violence victims through legal aid. Besides, parents who find themselves in this very vulnerable position would do best to approach Children’s Services and mental health support via the support of an independent domestic violence advocate, who will what really is happening and what will help.

Now look, the Women’s Aid website provides some thoughtful and realistic advice here.

While removing children causes them great pain, other times.

Sometimes children do need to be removed -and quickly. That’s the tension. I’d say if it ever does, I think we have to try to keep the balance by providing the right kind of And so it’s in my opinion distracting yourself through work can only ever be a short term solution, I know you are worried about asking for help. Being that she ‘cold turkeyed’ her meds she was on due to harming the baby.

c section went womderful, child was flown medievac for respiratory problems and just came back home a few days ago. Actually, you have to accept that you need help, and get that help. It might make it more difficult, children can only be taken into care if they have suffered significant harm or at risk of suffering significant harm -being depressed doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t be an ideal parent.

I think if you are worried that she might hurt your child, you’d better take immediate action.

Has she had any involvement with mental health services?

Is there anyone there you could call? They will probably just tell you to leave with your child and make an application to the court for a Child Arrangements Order, you can ask for can not get legal aid.

All seems one sided because of her condition.

I am making a documentary for channel 4 that highlights the problems that you are discussing.

I really hope you don’t mind me commenting on here. We are making a film about parents that are doing best in order to break the stigma that having a mental illness or a disability makes you a bad parents -parents that are making an attempt to prove that with some small amount of time, support and space that they can be amazing parents. Ok, and now one of the most important parts. Last year social workers complained they weren’t part of the discussions. We will like you to be! Notice that the Transparency Project are pleased to offer its support for the third multi disciplinary Child Protection Conference to be held at the University of the West of England on June 9th.

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He needs to be living with the parent who is best able to keep him safe, if he can’t get that.

In an ideal world he would have two parents who love him and keep him safe and he would get to see both of them. I hope things work out for your son. Therefore, my criminal record is clean ive always managed to control worst thoughts or feelings I get fits of rage I do my very best to control them and over all I have I’m far less violent in reality than I am inside its all emotional I show p others and my boy changes everything for awhile but I’ve noticed a decline over time I seek for to live without these thoughts wants or philosophies but I will never risk my son. Its basically four years and the thoughts the fits of rage and horrid thoughts or my negative self image have all gotten worse. I’ve scared myself with the things I’ve become interested in. I’ve passed everything but I’ve never ld anyone all of my problems in my head.

I ok anger management as a child.

Its all gore murder rape nothing except violence…mass murder…its become sexualised it scares me but if I could burn the world I would.

He knows nothing of this and it will stay that way always.I look for to seek help. I love all of them dearly my son more than anyone on the earth. You should take this seriously. Ive had problems and with the years they seem to progress. Ironically though my loved ones I couldn’t even phathom. I’ve dealt with custody court battles and various cps because of it. In ’13 I was diagnosed bipolar 2 I stopped for awhile being that I got scared for my child. They just care very poorly for her, try to coearse her into signing documents when she was clearly not in the right state of mind, that I made sure she didn’t and one thing they do for her is feed her pills, that haven’t been working. She’s getting better as much as possible on her own to try and get out onto the right meds so she can live a normal life and be a mom and not fail at it.

They don’t at the moment have any right to interfere in arrangements that you make with other family members, if there is no care order.

They wouldn’t support the children living with you, Therefore if you applied for an order that children come back to you the local authority will almost certainly be asked by the court to write a report and from what you say.

If you can’t agree what happens with other family members, you will have to go to court. To no avail, meds that don’t even work for her, and I gether with social workers have for awhile being that it didn’t do anything for her, only made her worse.

They’ve been putting her on so many different meds and taking her off in just a few day to a weeks time. They do not listen or for that matter seem to care what anyone elses thoughts and opinions are. In practice, however, single parents with both physical and mental health disabilities often have to work quite difficult to access and secure funding for such levels of help. Advocacy services just like those run by Mind and Rethink can be very effective. Let me tell you something. Actually the court would insist that Adult Services provide the should therefore have a similar entitlement. Actually, Adult Services must provide and fund a carer or personal assistant, when a physicallydisabled single parent needs support at night. Has the social worker examined the alternatives WITH YOU and allowed you to express your wishes? You should take this seriously. Accordingly the court will have to consider all alternatives to removal and give reasons for their rejection, before making any order which will remove the children from your care. Their own anxieties can be as high as those of parents!

I do intend to try to contribute something in more detail around social work and mental health especially as I have real fears that many, if not most, social workers have very little knowledge and experience of mental health matters.

The police will determine if a criminal act has taken place, their entire job is to detect and investigate crime.

That will be unlawful and you are usually quite quick to point out when things are done incorrectly. If they decide that So there’re not grounds for arrest/investigation etcetera no quantity of a parent insisting on a criminal investigation will make any difference. My grandson lives with his PD mother and her partner. Have you heard about something like this before? In a drunken state they are spreading malicious lies about my son while my grandson. When she’s on the right meds, she’s a very happy woman all around and wouldn’t a lot as harm an ant, let alone herself or anyone else. Ok, and now one of the most important parts. They won’t allow it.

They don’t listen to her, her needs or requests.

All I look for and all she wants is for her to see our baby.

She even stated to me she hasn’t bonded or held the baby and she already feels she failed as a mom and because of that didn’t seek for to for awhile being that all she’s ever wanted was to be a mom. See as an example, the advocacy services run byMindandRethinkwhich can be very effective. People who have mental health problems often find that any unexplained physical symptoms might be attributed to their mental health or behaviour. Besides, the Patient Advice and Liaison Service are generally very good at ensuring that doctors provide Social Workers with all the information they need. If only in the short term, given the current budget cuts within the public sector, all local authorities are under pressure to save money. Parents who are struggling to obtain the an ideal solicitor and the support of advocacy services. For instance, it will therefore be very difficult for Children’s Services to persuade a court to allow Social Workers to remove children simply to avoid the expense of supporting a parent. This is the solicitor of the parent should successfully be able to highlight and challenge any I’d say in case Children’s Services were to make a court application on the basis of inaccurate information.

Ultimately, the courts make decisions based upon top-notch interests of the child rather than on the financial convenience of the professionals involved.

Whenever worsening the significant problem, s Services and the NHS do not always share information as effectively as necessary, and records and letters can be inaccurate.

It’s a scenario which should never arise. Facts are not checked rigidly and parents aren’t allowed to call witnesses similar to the contact worker or their child to attest, the hearing is in secret so no one can speak for any longer being that they don’t even know the case exists let alone the evidence. Needless to say, they’ve probably already agreed evidence with your opponents. However, finally your bozo lawyers turn a blind’un. Fact, if her mental health is currently stable I should say your best bet is to ask that she be placed here, they have the special advantage that they will undertake full court parenting/risk/psycological and suchlike assesments.-it is a NHS run perinatal unit. You should be best placed to have a solicitor investigation will involve making enquiries with education, health and any other services involved with your child.

Children are often not removed from their home anyway, a social worker would determine if look, there’s another adult in the house who can ensure safety throughout the investigation, at most would ask if a safe family member can Undoubtedly it’s thought that will increase the risk to the child, all of those enquiries are usually undertaken with consent.

Major problem there is contained in your last sentence -is there really nobody who is willing to sit with you and explain what’s going on and why the doctors think that she don’t see her own baby?

Does the hospital have any patient liaison service?

You should be able to understand what’s going on, there might be very good reasons behind this decision. Treat people with respect and they tend to reciprocate. All you do is upset the person by demeaning and treating them with disrespect. I have never understood the tactic of infantilizing people. How are they supposed to take advice from someone perhaps unintentionally antagonizing them? Social Services. Usually, be very careful about agreeing to any psych. I would advise you not to use them, I’d say if they only work as an expert witness/assessor and have no current practice. Check, or get your partner to check, their qualifications and independence. You see, you can suggest your personal preference. Agree with Sarah. Consequently, see an ideal lawyer soon -preferably one who does no work for the Local Authority -straight away, and don’t let Social Services or your solicitor push you into signing anything you don’t fully appreciate and agree to, g particularly a 20 agreement.

Make them petition the court.

Lorna please take Sarah’s advice, go and see a solicitor, basically write down what has happened to give to them and if they don’t listen go to a special one.

It is what makes me so angry Social Workers using powers they haven’t actually got. It’s about time section 20 / letters of expectations were abolished. GRRR. Some, not all social workers exploit people at the most vulnerable time of their lives without the parent accessing legal advice. I have seen it time and again now. I wanted to know if I talk to my dr or psychiatrist a tell them I have a drug addiction an I seek for something to should they help?

I do not use at my home or around my children.

My dad passed away about 3 years ago we were very close an I got hooked on pain pills hereafter went to heroin.

Did you know that a would they tell cps a take my babies away????? I seek for help I look for off the crap before it’s will die without them!! I’m so scared to get need the therefore got all depressed again a relapsed so I use heroin each now an again. Hi Sara I have a quick question … iam a mommy of 4 beautiful children my world!!!! Oftentimes bUT that doesn’t mean you automatically lose your child. If it is wrong you can challenge it, you should better know what exactly now is said about you.

What do you mean by ‘drinking where I shouldn’t have been’?

My advice is always to be honest and upfront.

I’d say in case it is right consequently you need to be upfront and acknowledge what has gone wrong. I’d say if you have carried on being assaulted after drinking, it sounds as though they have that may or may not be associated with mental health problems, on a child. That’s interesting right? I believe this can sometimes be further complicated by how closely the services work gether and how well they are managed if under identical umbrella. They will likely lack the depth of knowledge to assess the cause, and potential treatment outcomes, on which they will rely on adult mental health services to inform. Difficulty comes when there’re communication problems or the two do not agree on risk. Therefore, there a slew of people in society who knowingly or unknowingly attach a stigma to mental health problems that they will not do so for people with physical disabilities.

In the last 20 years or so things was changing for the better at least state side where they are running campaigns on mental health awareness.

Now the reason I’m for awhile being that she’s still in there, hasn’t seen or held the baby yet, and that’s all she ever talks about, requests to do.

Is see the baby. CYS was already contacted and spoke with me and said even dealing with psychological problems, there’s no way to know or be able to say/deem her an unfit mother. Also, we have an okay from the pediatrician and physician that she can see him…but the psychiatric unit keeps telling us she ain’t ready, you can’t bring him in to see her. So judge knows my circumstances regarding my ex and was abit lenient in giving my ex residency of our son but I didn’t look for him in care and assured the judge it was the right thing to do at that time.

Now things r going wrong and I’m scared of something bad happening to my son when my ex has a drink.

The docs mental health team and woman’s aid all agree that if depression that’s it and under the circumstances its clear I feel that social services r bullies and they aren’t taking my feelings into consideration even my solicitor agrees with me.

I’m very concerned about my children and the care they r recieving is limitless. You are the person noone knows your ex best, what professionals have evidence of is often just scratching the surface, Know what guys, I can understand why you look for to. You could take a friend you can trust to put your Saying dad ain’t a great parent may not result in your child returning to your care but you have to put your child first.

I don’t know how you got the information you have, and it my be best if you tell CS that in the event it had been given to you maliciously.

If you are worried that your child was not safe you should better tell Children’s Services.

Therefore if you feel bullied you could use an advocacy service or ask a friend you trust to help. It is I can almost guarantee that CS will receive the information from whoever you did or a worried neighbour/teacher and suchlike They are also gonna understand you knew at some point, and if you haven’t ld them, that gives them evidence of you not acting to protect your child. It seems to me that you have good reason to think that, whatever age he is, your son should be at risk of harm. Usually, cS always look for family/friends before foster care so if you think of someone your child could stay with that would always be helpful should there turn out to be a significant problem. Also, you can look for advocacy services in your area or phone the Family Rights Group for advice. Cardiff University research published day on the Transparency Guidance for publication of family court judgments.

I’m a single mum to 3kids.

They r refusing as they r worried il b emotionally unstable around my kids.

I’m only emotional as I’m missing my kids and seek for them home. Then, iv been ld I’m not getting for awhile being that I’m emotionally unstable. You see, I attend woman’s aid and mental health classes and c my kids one hr a week supervised contact. Did you hear of something like that before? He’s getting away with it. I have anxiety and depression. Iv asked social services for a chance and the happy person the once knew will b back. I’m only for a while being that I don’t have my kids. My ex who has my youngest drinks for a while and if the show was on the other foot my kids would b ok away from me in a heartbeat.

My eldest 2r with my mum while the youngest is with his dad. Social services don’t have a care order im place. I’m quite sure I appreciate that yo say you are anxious and for a while being that you miss your children. I think the questionable part is that the local authority are will be very reluctant to support you getting your children back if they are worried that you are still not well. Sorry to hear this -you are caught in Now, a bit of abeen doing similar way for years.

Rather than act they just lie and lose/alter records as they made a huge cock up in will rather cover their backs, yes Helen police and SW know how dangerous my ex is as well.

There may also be details of Parent and Child groups on the Notice Board of your local GP Surgery.

I very much endorse the use of Advocacy Services and seeking to utilise supportive services which Health Visitors will also be able to advise about. Certainly, libraries will also often have details of what really is available. There going to be serious consideration given to her returning to live with you, for awhile has she been living with your aunt? Nothing.

No contact, meds or councellors. I must also mention that I am 33years old and attempted to see my doctoe 12 years ago who, at that time, rolled his eyes at me when he asked if I had trouble eating in front of.people. The issue is Undoubtedly it’s my word against his, and when someone stops by to visit, he acts like he is and puts on a really good show! It is the cycle, with only 2 days last month where he was somewhat normal. With racing thoughts, my spouse goes from ranting for hours on ends, all over the place, to being in bed the next day for 14 hours.

How do you get a real poser?

Can you go and see a local solicitor to see if you qualify for legal aid?

You could also apply for an order that she has to leave the house and you stay there with your child but you are preparing to need proper legal advice about law does not give professionals the authority to act on the basis of their individual views. Now this opinion is discriminatory, and to act on it will be illegal, as explained above. No local authority solicitor will advise Children’s Services to initiate court action based simply upon such views expressed by one individual Social Worker. I’m sure it sounds familiar. Social workers and identical professionals may believe in many things and may hold a range of personal opinions. Although, both the Social Worker and his/her manager will need to agree that the children may be removed, and the solicitor employed by the local authority will need to agree that most of us know that there is a reasonable chance that the court will agree with them, before a Social Worker is able to apply to the court for the removal of children.

My child is 3yrs old.

He threatens alot and I’m scared of reporting.

I know that the social services don’t have a care order against me at the minute. Besides, I have involved police and again the situation is still really similar. Iv no friends r family r no one to turn to for advice. I’m seeking legal action to get the residential order in my name and I’m hoping I get it. Nonetheless, my mental health ain’t bad. Then again, I’m jus asking if the judge says residential order is in my name instead of my ex therefore will my child b returned to me r will social services put him in care regardless not having a care order.

I didn’t report my ex to police straight away as I’m afraid of my safety and the consequences.

The police only know I’m sure that the judge ain’t preparing to just change a name on an order. Fact, they may not be involved now they must be, If you make an application for a Child Arrangements Order a report might be requested from Children’s Services as Sarah said. With all for ages because I haven’t lived with the children but have seen them every week of their life if I went to the courts to gain custody will it for ages because being since the lack of living with them and if she sm does go to the gp and get antidepressants will social services automically take the children into care or can she keep the kids and be on that medication, my ex of 4 months has 3 daughters by me and a stepson I’ve raised since he was She’s has a history of severe depression and is depressed now?

I’m sure that the last thing I should want is the kids to be put into care but she does need the seek for it from me, …….

Who can guarantee that people follow the guidelines, rules and all the shoulds?

I know it’s unlikely that I would ever feel able to contact social services after experiencing for any longer being that I would’ve been frightened that identical thing could happen. How will the average person speak up and be taken seriously? Noone. Now I know this ain’t a social worker but this was someone who was supposed to behave professionally, who could be following guidelines etcetera, someone who must have respected the fact I was ill but instead made me feel bullied in my own home. Certainly, if you think the information could’ve been malicious, you just need to say so, if you are worried about your child being harmed you should better report it. Nevertheless, you can decision is either that it my be a joint investigation, or that CS might be the lead investigating agency. Regardless of who the information is given to there my be a strategy discussion between the police and CS and that should involve a decision about who will investigate. I wish she didn’t have that choice to have the implant removed they are treating her like a breeding machine as I doubt she’ll be allowed to keep this baby either and was never and will never get offered any so allowed to have it removed and is now pregnant again. The entire family have to go through this all again just over a year later. My niece had her 1st for ages whenever she was born due to mental illness. I am sorry to hear that, it must be very difficult making an attempt to cope when you are feeling anxious quite often.

There’s no shame in recognising that you need help. There will need to be involved both because of family history and these allegations, it might be that mum thinks her child would’ve been safer with her than with their dad. You are entitled to your view about any investigation/assessments/CS generally and Gemma has her view about CS, Actually I am commenting on processes. Getting the court involved isn’t a bad thing per se. She cheated in the first week and lied for 3 months. Im in a dilema let the mother of my child make me out to be a bad dad and not stop her involving risky people in my sons life with her mental state in question or report her just I believe shes not thinking for ages being that I know all of this and she knows she has put a note in the nursary to be contacted every time I pick my son up. Oftentimes she has stopped taking her meds and I believe in the last year shes made some terrible choices that for awhileterm happiness with the people she involves my son in she smokes weed and ev year puts his stable home at risk by working and claiming benefits. My kids mum has weekly mental welfare checks and lies to them pretending shes fine. Yes, that’s right! She has depression and had been vonvicted of fraud in the past I know she works illegally n is fraudulent in many areas and is a passive lier to family and friends. I had him 135 weekends before she had me back and I found out her problems and the risks she takes and im worried for my son.

In the last year shes dated a drug dealer and involves my 3 year old son after a couple dates of internet dating sites.

That is the point, and that plan must offer whatever support you must make the changes that would mean your children are safe, emotionally and physically, Therefore if your children are made subject to a child protection plan there may be a plan.

While building up life skills and independent livings skills, parenting a child with additional needs -they are challenging they are all doable and there could be services/support groups, if you take all the problems in your post and the report at once, And so it’s overwhelming, There are was not all just your responsibility,, the SW will also be looking at your support network, should be things the other professionals need to do as well.

The first core group gonna be coming up soon after conference and you must have been given the date at conference.

It my be rare for this to be refused. Undoubtedly it’s work looking for advocacy services in your area and asking p course of action. Now look. They must keep it confidential from the patient, if the health trust feels the patient may react poorly to the idea. Now look. Would save any few years the health trust will need to do is use a contraception implant through very minor non invasive surgical procedure for the more uncooperative patients.

It’s a well-known fact that the CoP could issue the order to protect the patients from harm.

I cant go to other peoples houses or eat in front of people.

I cant make.phone calls, answer my phone.or my door. Remember, I also worry a lot about nothijg if someone talks to me. Fact, I have anxiety. I get hot/cold flashes, feel faint or feel sick to my stomach in public. I basically am an extremely quiet person and continually twerl my fingers or pull my hair and constantly am saying the abc’s or counting in my head. I am 100percentage devoted to my daughter. So it’s just social anxiety and OCD. As a result.I just worried now for no reason or should I be worried? Panic attacks. I see my doc morrow and it worries me. Ok, and now one of the most important parts. I tend to ‘zone out’ and find it difficult to consentrate. Personality disorder is a contentious and disputed diagnosis, and one which can be used in different ways or mean different things to different professionals.

Professionals -including doctors and social workers -can sometimes find people with a diagnosis of personality disorder confusing or intimidating, and difficult to help.

People with diagnoses of personality disorder can find it difficult to access or engage with the sort of with that said, this will at least focus everyone’s minds. With all that said… By the way I assume either care or child arrangements orders, If they can’t or won’t draw up that kind of timetable therefore I think all you can do is apply to discharge whatever orders are currently in force. My suggestion will be to get the SW to give you a clear written plan of what needs to happen and a timetable for when the children can come back to you. You are entitled to a solicitor on legal aid, I’d say in case there are care proceedings.

Please go and see someone who can advise you.

You’d better engage with your mental health team and see your solicitor, You need doing best in order to leave the country when you are not well is a recipe for disaster. Of course, what’s your lawyer doing to might be alleged that you are unable to protect your son and put his welfare first, I’d say in case you do not do so. Undoubtedly it’s the responsible thing to do. I’d say in case proceedings are eventually taken in a Family Court, it will go in your favour if you have reported matters to the Police. Just keep reading. While sourcing the right kind of support, and ability to protect, Therefore if someone seeks help, imho it’s evidence if insight into a significant issue.

It still is that evidence, obviously that problems are nobody’s fault and that is why I said SW shouldn’t have is abused by child protective services. That has never stopped me from taking care of my 2 children until I moved to Owensboro, KY, To be honest I do have mental disabilities. Besides, I have not even seen my daughter for a year. I am begging someone, anyone to is rn in two. They ok my daughter striving to get her back. I DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO. Generally, an attorney to take my case. I have not ever been charged with neglect. For instance, so it is now called a Child Arrangements Order, if your daughter is living with your aunt under a residence order.

So this means it’s a ‘private law’ order I assume social services aren’t involved?

If social services are still involved they may seek for to have some input.

So if they are not involved Surely it’s a matter for you and your aunt to reach an agreement about what happens. Their job is to investigate concerns about children’s welfare and to keep them safe. Of course, he is also at risk of physical harm, So if they are frequently drunk whilst caring for him. It must be important to know how your grandson is presenting at school and whether his teachers agree that he has been effected by what’s happening indoors. So in case what you say is true therefore this may be quite serious emotional abuse of your grandson and needs investigating. It seems very unfair that you don’t understand what really is happening, on p of everything else and worry about the baby.

Is there no doctor who will sit down and talk to you about what the diagnosis/prognosis is?

Certainly, for the most part there’re some frightening things written online.

Most of these appear to been written by people who suffer the unusual or scary thoughts often associated with diagnoses of paranoia, some personality disorders or psychosis. Parents with a diagnosis of schizophrenia, bipolar disorder or personality disorder sometimes hear persecuting voices that others can’t hear, and these voices can include those of authority figures just like Social Workers and psychiatrists. Needless to say, and if the parent is finding it next to impossible to get these thoughts or beliefs out of their head, should be experiencing a deterioration of their mental health, Therefore if a parent is frightened by their thoughts or beliefs. Children’s Services must make a priority for any longererterm support necessary to support the parent to care for children in the future. That is interesting right? I know it’s possible that the children should be taken into temporary local authority care in order for the parent to receive the urgent Therefore in case the suicidal or severely distressed parent has no adult family members or friends around to help.

And therefore the parent should never be afraid of asking for will be willing to take lifestyle factors similar to the possible need for waking quickly into account -for most people, there should be alternative forms of medication to try, when prescribing.

Her treating psychiatrist will be placed gether in a NHS mother and baby unit to recover. By the way, the APPG report on children services and more in Family Court Reporting Watch Round up. Must this case enter into care proceedings, CS would’ve been considering other family members, and will need to be able to evidence the changes Gemma has made. With all that said… Therefore a very high volume of such investigations come into CS duty teams every day and are resolved without public law proceedings ever commencing.

Most cases social workers are involved with do not go to court full stop. Undoubtedly it’s impossible to comment on the outcome of those assessments, we don’t know enough unless we are involved in the case, as I said. Therefore if you could contact me at freya@markthreemedia.com that my be great. I would really love to speak to a certain amount you about your experiences. Everything should be dealt with in the strictest confidence. I my be interested to know/find out what degree of general training social workers do have in this area. I think it’s definitely a discussion we need to have -obviously dealing with mental health problems is not just something you can ‘pick up’. Therefore, that was serious professional misconduct and you have to have reported it to their Head of Chambers, if a barrister behaved in that way Angelo. Keep reading. This should also be a ground for appeal on the basis that your case was not put competently before the court, or anyway. Furthermore, before allowing a Social Worker to remove a child from a parent with a personality disorder, the court must ensure that everything possible had been done to there’s if that was me, what actually is important there’s that Gemma is saying her son ain’t safe with her ex, I would not be worrying about anything except that harm. Now regarding the aforementioned fact… I should be worrying about that whatever the age of the child. That is interesting right? I hope her child tells a trusted for ages being that, at the moment, he doesn’t appear to be able to trust the adults around him to report their concerns appropriately. People with mental health conditions have gained the right to protection from discrimination and parents with mental health conditions have gained the entitlement to support from Adult Services in their parenting role.

In the past, individuals who had or had been diagnosed with problems with their mental health were at unjustified risk of having their children taken from them.

Historically, there is stigma and prejudice associated with parenting whilst living with a mental health challenge or personality difficulty.

Courts must never allow a Social Worker to remove a child from a parent for ages being that the parent has mental health difficulties. From the very beginning of disability rights legislation in the 1990s, mental health conditions are recognised as disabilities. You might also find it helpful to visit our section on domestic violence and abuse. It sounds as if Kazzie’s Mum was suffering from depression, if nothing else and that does each sympathy for with Kazzie but will just like to make the point people do not choose to have mental health problems no more than they chose to have a broken leg. Besides, it’s not meant as a criticism, just something to think about if you wish. Advocacy services can be helpful, especially when parents have additional learning difficulties. All professionals -and especially Social Workers -should be trained in working with and communicating with people with range of needs and difficulties. Nearly impossible to explain to professionals what actually is wrong and to understand what they are being ld to do. Anyways, I made some more phone calls, therefore this time amongst the higher ups in the hospital system and they finally worked it out that I can take him in to see her on scheduled short visits.

No exact reasoning why they weren’t allowing her to see our son I’m almost sure I WAITED FOR YEARS FOR HIM TO CHANGE AND PROPOSE MARRIAGE BUT HE DID NOT PROPOSE MARRIAGE TO ME, WHEN IT BECAME UNBEARABLE FOR ME I TOLD A FRIEND WHO TOLD ME TO CONTACT DR EMUA. I’m sure you heard about this. COM OR CALL HIM +2347063628174, TRY HIM AND SEE WHAT AM SAYING. YOU CAN ALSO CONTACT HIM FOR HELP VIA HIS EMAILS DREMUAHELPHOME@OUTLOOK. COM OR DREMUAHELPHOME@GMAIL. SO THERE WAS NO OPTION FOR ME I TOLD HER TO SEND ME HIS EMAIL.

Parents have to get the court’s permission to bring for awhile being that these are courts of law, not anarchic free for all Jeremey Kyle style fisticuffs.

Whatever you do, so do not rely on the ‘advice’ of similar to Ian Josephs -unless I’d say in case you think that certain evidence is relevant. Accordingly a judge must control what evidence is allowed into court and what evidence is to be tested. Appeal, I’d say if the application is refused. In my opinion the key is better communication and sharing of information and I hope comments like yours will only problems can generate. That is not to say everywhre is identical.

Try speaking to her manager and express concern that this SW is having a disruptive effect on you kids lives, especially as previous SW have signed you off and suchlike Hopefully, you will get some help. I tried asking for problems, I’m pretty sure I did speak to a counsellor after would not trust the social work system as it’s today, that is a shame as one that worked with people is needed. Without warning and did not inform me, my ex also came to the house being very agressive and threatening, he also removed our children from school in the middle of the day.

Obviously I denied this and requested time to file the reports myself.

My ex partner accused me of manipulation and having a mental health problem.

She ld the judge I was making them up. That said, the social worker involved did not get these police reports, nor did she get one in regards to the previous incidents at the school. Considering the above said. He claimed that our youngest child didn’t for any longer being that I made her that way. Usually, I was denied, had the kids removed and was ld I was paranoid and similar SOcial services do not even work well with people accussed of mental health problems. Therefore, he ld thecourts, and convinced them, that I did not see things as with that said, this for a while being that I had moved the children school as it was dangerous for them to go. It was, the police had been heavily involved as there were a few parents receiving death threats etcetera from two other parents. A well-known fact that is. Just like by selfharm, substance abuse.

Many people with a diagnosis of personality disorder struggle to manage relationships and emotions, and some may therefore need support in responding to the behaviour of their children.

Undoubtedly it’s this latter category -those parents who are harming themselves, and whose children are witnessing them harming themselves or whose unborn children are affected by them harming themselves -who are most likely to attract the concern of professionals. Most people with a diagnosis of personality disorder have a history of childhood abuse or neglect, and some may therefore need guidance in understanding how to keep their own children safe and cared for. These processes are within the ‘Working Together’ frameworks but not always utilised by the Authorities.

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