With the BCBS Basic plan, the following biweekly employee figures apply. Why is not Self Plus One twice the cost of Self? I did NOT say I was fond of either our plan or the single payer system. It’s a well look, there’re many that argue that single payer doesn’t work. I have lived here since 1977 and I am a US citizen. I was attempting to explain how it works. Besides, I suspect that your long winded copy n paste was the deleted comment above. I suspect that so many people didn’t look at me like they’ve seen a ghost when I mention it.
I’m not asking for your pity.
I’m not dying. I’m not making a pronouncement. Go ahead and ask,. I’m kind of an open book.
We can get on with our conversation.
Esme, you definitely expressed this feeling far better than I ever could.
I relate to very much of this. I am still struggling with finding support a year after my diagnosis of bipolar I. Nonetheless, thank you for your honesty, bravery and talent. Now this post was so truthful and eloquent. Of course, my roommate responds with hugs and they are just top. Nonetheless, whenever assuming that logic will somehow be useful for a truly irrational set of behaviours, me of family can only seem to provide rational advise when my depressive states overcome me.
Expressions of love and nonjudgement was my favourite.
Other pieces that relate to support and mental illness.
One Life, One Hands Pair, Schizophrenia in India, the Strength in Belonging. It is I’ve also updated the informational page for my new e book about living well with mental illness,Light Gets In.honored by the feedback I’ve received thus far. Also, the one that resonates very much is trusting me to know myself rather than thinking you know what’s right for me. In any circumstances do not prey on me when I’m being vulnerable with you. Your essential oil, face cream, or shake ain’t the magic bullet to cure what’s been ailing me for 20 years. Therefore this isn’t the time to sell me something. You don’t are smarter than my doctor, or more importantly. Basically, yet if it looks like we To be honest I can almost guarantee that I’ll walk away from that conversation feeling anxious.
I do need to say one problem before I get into the nittygritty.
I speak in public about my personal experiences with schizoaffective disorder and PTSD.
I’m an advocate. I found it at the perfect time. Eventually, I know this post is two years old but I’m just finding it now. Of course I was telling friends one by one suggestions like that but now I’m preparing to share this article so they know how to respond. Anyways, whenever finding it sweet when they need to know if it’s ok to ask questions, I don’t mind the questions. Thank you for posting it again on Twitter Esme. With that said, I do love it when people are curious about what’s happening for me. A well-known fact that is. YES to getting anxious re. I write about that at great length in my book, especially as it applies to how I dress and present myself. Seriously. Accordingly a friend of mine had recently been diagnosed with an illness the reaction to which I did actually pseudowitness in the Comments section of her Facebook updates.
During a conversation with two lovely young women, held in an alcove of San Francisco’s Makeshift Society, By the way I recounted one particular response that had me absolutely livid.
Thank you very much for writing this article.
Recently, By the way I ‘came out’ about my disorder by including it in my bio. There were mixed reactions some very positive and quite a few individuals letting me know that I gave them I wouldn’t even think about my panic, lest it bring on a panic attack. I was just in a conversation last night in which I expressed my deep feeling that means coming out of the closet about my ’15ish’ years of Panic Disorder and depression. Now pay attention please. It strikes me as odd that people should deliberately reach out and take the energy to say something like that. Now regarding the aforementioned fact… Interesting re. Let me ask you something. How, exactly, did people tell you that you gave I’m pretty sure I believe, there being no capitalR Right way to comfort the grieving I still reckon that there’s value in learning from the experiences of others, even if there’s no ‘capitalR’ Right way to do this akin to. However, which makes it all the more important to aim for the following. Just, ‘You are doing the right thing by taking care of yourself,’ means a lot. Now please pay attention. Real it’s been scientifically validated and extremely difficult, what I seek for to hear. Is some validation that what I’m going through being that we often wonder if we’re making a big deal out of nothing. Nevertheless, why is this important? Let me tell you something. For the most part there’re a slew of pieces out there, I’ve found, about what not to say.
I asked them, lots of whom are living with chronic illnesses, including mental health diagnoses, what they will appreciate in response to this particular disclosure. Less common are the pieces that advise us on what’s in the right ballpark and so I turned to my peers. Right after disclosing, for me, I cringe when, someone relates a story that suggests we all have bad days and so my illness is just akin to a bad day. So, that’s a beautiful piece and I love that it gives people wisdom from those on the inside and that it’s framed in a positive way. That said, this provides a helpful framework. I have worked to become mindful though, that usually what that person is doing best in order to do is to connect to me and my experience. Certainly, it’s true that we can be easily hurt by the wrong words and And so it’s equally true that quite a few us don’t even really know what the right words it’s important for me to recognize that sometimes what feels callous or ignorant is someone’s clumsy way of doing best in order to reach out.
So it is a wonderful post.
I tell people as it’s this type of an integral part of my life that otherwise I’d feel I’m cheating them somehow.
When I ld them, I’ve had people -new acquaintances, potential partners or friends -just quit on me, thus I’d like to stop that from happening. It’s very apparent I have a condition of some kind, I take a sh tload of pills quite often.a couple of them are just like, Severe depression you say? It’s very disheartening. Considering the above said. Well, bye! Esmé Weijun Wang is an awardwinning author and advocate. At esmewang.com, she provides resources that assist creatives in developing both resilience and mastery on the path to building a creative legacy. Her debut novel, The Border of Paradise, is now available for purchase. Furthermore, and what ok me long to get help, since disclosing I am questioned about using medication. Did you hear about something like that before? I have both a mental health disorder and a recent fibromyalgia diagnosis. Even better is when they get vulnerable and tell me they don’t know what to say, that generally leads to more intimacy and a deeper relationship.
Those are better than silence.
That’s just about the worst.
Even a clumsy response is better than nothing. Therefore this also applies to chronic illness. Then again, that’s a tricky one, and not even a lot a thing to say as an attitude to take but, imminent bodily harm notwithstanding, we’re often ld that we don’t know what’s best for us. Certainly, for some ‘well meaning’ folks, that may include saying things to us like, To be honest I don’t think you have depressiondepression maybe you’re bummed because of the weather! On p of this, I support you in any step you take ward healing, however, is an indicator that you have a grasp of the importance of agency. Anyway, on a similar note, we should be choosing to take medication. You may have strong feelings about that. It’s okay to check in repeatedly, and ofer support and assistance and love. Basically, we might need someone to double check whether there’s something edible in the fridge. Living with a mental health challenge often means that we might need help, now this applies to other life altering events, as well. You’re not a clinician or a guardian angel. Maybe we need a distracting movie, complete with cornball performers who make fart jokes.
We might need to be listened to.
It’s okay not to know what’s needed, JSA Lowe says.
We might need someone to make the trek to pick up prescriptions. I actually found that it ok years before I ok anyone up on an offer of help, it doesn’t have to be in the five minutes after the initial query. As a result, we don’t need anything, so do not be afraid to ask again, if we say that no. There’s also the possibility that, in a situation when we’re disclosing as we’re not in a decent headspace, we won’t be able to come up with what we do, virtually, need, in which case according to your relationship with the person JSA adds, come over, put in a load of sheets, put on a dumb TV show, take out the recycling, make and serve a cup of herbal tea, smile and offer a hug, and quietly leave. Doesn’t it sound familiar? Enormous, enormous thanks,, to everyone who commented and contributed on this pic and a personal thanks to everyone whose responses to my disclosures helped me to feel safe, heard, and seen.
